Hi, I'm curious to hear different experiences and perspectives from those of you who have both selective mutism and autism (diagnosed or suspected). Do you think you benefit (or think you would benefit) from having a formal diagnosis of autism on top of selective mutism? If so, how? Is it mostly emotional (e.g., affirming your experience) or are there structural benefits (like better support in school)?

My daughter is 3.5 y.o. and is currently on a waitlist to be evaluated for selective mutism. The goal being to get support in place by the time she starts school in the spring. My partner wants to push for an autism evaluation when we see the psychologist, but I'm unconvinced it would result in a meaningful change in how she is supported at school (we anticipate struggles with social anxiety and overstimulation, but not academics or behavior). When we toured her school, I noticed several kids wearing ear defenders and there is a designated quiet area for kids who need a break.

For context, I have crippling social anxiety and (undiagnosed) autism. I personally don't feel a need to seek a diagnosis, but I have several friends for whom a late diagnosis was important validation. However, I know very few women who had an autism diagnosis during their school years and those who did (hopefully) had a different experience 20 years ago than what is typical now.

Thanks!

This probably doesn't class as selective mutism but this subreddit was recommended and this might align with some of your experiences, so maybe people here will have some advice?