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You know, I give up. Nowadays it doesn't matter how much you care about someone. How much you doing for someone. It's pointless. That's all nice really, but totally optional and worthless if you're ugly.

Oh and before you tell me I'm overreacting, people literally recommend facial surgery. I'm not kidding.

I'm so pathetic, I gave people everything I could and it still wasn't enough. I'm such a loser, each time I'm seeing a shooting star I did pray to be loved just so god could laugh at me again. I wished for it even when I found some 4-leafedclover. I was praying in a church.

I was in a gym, I lost 30kg, I did travel my country, I'm in a course since a half year where I interact with new people and I'm still alone. I'm also in therapy since 2 years. I was in rehab too.

I asked people out and heard so much what's wrong about me that I don't know what to do about it.

Wrong height, eye color, hair color, nationality, a stupid name, wrong distance, no experience, not enough money. Stupid hobbies etc.

Like WHAT ON EARTH SHOULD I DO?!

I'm still young which is pretty and I meet my special someone when I stop looking for it and working on myself and I heard that like a million times. 10 years later. NOTHING, HAPPENED.

So Hey guess it means shit. My fault for "being the best friend, they ever had" while I'm just easily replaceable and fucking ugly.

I wished so much to have a family in life but I accept it that I don't have the opportunity or even the choice.

So honestly I wish everyone the best and hope everyone can reach what they wish for.

I gave up now. I don't want to waste pointless energy and tears anymore.

I used to think that by the time I reached adulthood, I'd have a better idea of what I was doing with my life. I thought I'd feel more confident, have things figured out, and know what direction I was heading in. But honestly, it feels like I'm just learning as I go. Some days I feel like I'm making progress, and other days I feel like I'm falling behind, even when I'm trying my best.

One thing I've realized is that nobody really prepares you for how overwhelming the little things can become when they all pile up at once. Work, money, responsibilities, relationships, and trying to make time for yourself can feel like a lot to manage.

I guess I always imagined that there would be some point where everything would finally click and I'd feel like I had my life together. Now I'm starting to wonder if everyone is just figuring things out at their own pace and pretending they know what they're doing a little better than they actually do.

I'm curious how other people experience this. Did you eventually reach a point where you felt more settled in life, or is being an adult really just a continuous process of figuring things out?

I was born in 2001 and I remember being seven years old, going to the computer lab at my school and learning how to type.

We had educational programs that taught us stuff like resting our fingers on the home row, using the little nubs on the F and J keys for our index fingers, etc.

Was it boring? Extremely. But in hindsight, I’m very glad I wasn’t raised on a touch screen.

Disclaimer: I don't live in America . We aren't car dependent, and we don't have big buildings, so when we step out, it always felt like there was always a crowd. Public transportation, hospital corridors, malls, any kind of government office... you name it , it was never quiet , it was never empty.

Through the years, internet took over majority of that face to face work , you rarely have to go to a government office for paperwork anymore, shopping is mostly done via internet. Schools, work, so many of them became online. Friends and family can reach each other anytime through their phones, so no need to meet face to face...

Also people aren't having multiple kids anymore, if at all. My grandma had 6 kids, mom has 2, I have none. My grandma had 15 grandkids, my mom has 2.

I stopped going out as much as I used to, because I also don't need it either. Yesterday I had to, I had to go to a government office, then had a doctor's appointment, then went to a mall , took the public transportation, walked the streets.

It all felt unusually empty . Yes, it's calm, people aren't rushing, but it felt lifeless and sad to me.

I am single, childless and work from home, so I previously thought that my loneliness was personal, it seems like everywhere is getting quieter. Probably I am overreacting but for some reason I didn't like it.

Today is my birthday, and for some reason, I feel really down. I can’t even fully explain why.

The strange thing is that, as far back as I can remember, I’ve almost always felt this way on my birthday. It’s supposed to be a happy day, but instead, I end up feeling sad, empty, or just disappointed for reasons I can’t quite put into words.

I don’t know if it’s the expectations I have for this day, the feeling of getting older, reflecting on my life, or something deeper that I haven’t figured out yet.

Does anyone else experience this? Have you ever wondered why your birthday makes you feel this way, even when nothing particularly bad has happened?

I’d really like to understand where this feeling comes from and why it seems to follow me every year

I feel like people don't realize how big of a deal it is that AI is this smart, or maybe I'm crazy? I think so far it's mostly hit devs (which most people are fine with let's be honnest) because most business see them as just a massive cost center, and in retrospect it's kinda absurd how much devs get paid just because they know how to code.

But am I supposed to believe that AI is smart enough to be better for example at math than literally anyone, but it won't be good enough to do the other jobs? I'm really puzzled, maybe a lot of people think math is just compicated computations so they aren't too surprised a machine is good at it?

Basically I think if your job is about dealing with the politics or the people side of things, or if it is really really important that there is someone to be mad at in case something fails you may be fine for a while. Or also blue collar jobs, at least until the robots get good.

But I genuinely don't see how the model where you get paid mostly because you know how to actually do something can survive.

I’m not sure how valid my feeling is in a objective view so I could really use some insights from you. To me personally I feel betrayed and a knot in the stomach.

In the past couple of days I told a friend of mine a business idea. He was pretty enthusiastic, and I guess he really likes the idea.

Now a couple days later he mentioned he is working on the idea I shared, already has a name for it etc. But didn’t consider asking me anything or including me in any process.

I felt like a boundary was violated because we have been friends who hang out daily, and when I’m open and sharing I didn’t expect something like this could happen.

Now of course, he can pursue the business, that side is all fine, he is a free man. The thing that hurts me is that I feel like a trust is broken. And I don’t know what the right attitude for this would be.

I will share my feelings, I think that is fair to stay loyal to myself. But not sure how the dynamic of the friendship should look. What would you do in such a situation? And is betrayal an exaggerated feeling (I can be sensitive)?

I've always been a bit shy around people and never had friends, for the last 4 years I haven't had a friend tho, l am 18 and I feel like I'm missing out when I see other kids my age going outside and having friend groups, I haven't had a friend that I can call and go outside with or just have a talk with, It also makes me feel lonely, In school kids are pretty mean to me, because they think I am "upper class" which I am not, I just have some nice stuff so first 2 years they bullied me, and they made me buy them stuff/food, which I never did, so school isn't really an option and I because l don't friends already, It is very hard for me to meet new people, I did sports before, but I don't really want to do anything sport wise at this point of life because I want to focus on school, l am also a very simple guy, the only things that I like are games, programming, music and cooking, so I don't really have stuff I can talk about with people just because my life are just these 4 things, I would also say that l am a pretty handsome guy, l am not tat or weird looking, and people also say that I am sympathetic, but people that I never spoke to say bad things about which I have no idea why people are like that, because l never talked to them.

I'm almost 2 months in at my current job and I don't think I can keep up with it. It's so demanding, anxiety inducing, and makes my symptoms worse. I was trying to stick around because it pays more than I've ever made.

I don't know what to do. I can quit and downgrade to part time in some other job with way less stress, but I'd feel like a failure for not being able to handle a career.

The stress makes things worse. I keep hearing them talk while I'm trying to focus on the job.

I did say I have a disability on my job application but I don't want to tell them what I have. I think I have to quit my job.

I feel like I let everyone down. I have a computer science degree and I can't even work in tech without having a mental breakdown.

It is safe to say that I have lost the ability to think critically and solve problems over the past three years. My brain just feels like mush when I try to comprehend a topic and what I learn just evaporates immediately from my head. I feel so slow and stupid all of the time, not to mention feeling extremely on edge with anxiety. This anxiety produces a feedback loop, making me feel more stupid when i’m talking to people due to the stuttering and pregnant pauses. It ‘s at the point where I just want people to leave me alone. I can’t even bring myself to learn to drive as I feel it is too much for my brain to handle, which makes me feel more defective.

It could be lack of sleep or stress perhaps but I just can’t seem to get to bed early enough to fuel my brain, I have to stay awake until a certain time before I feel tired.

For the past year, I've had the following (I'm 24):

- constant worries about my health and my parents and sister (specifically around ALS and cancer)

- hyper aware of symptoms and conscious monitoring and googling that I can't stop

- intrusive dreams about becoming a quadriplegic (or someone in my family) where I wake up shaking

- getting anxious about stuff like whether my twin's credit card will get approved and then when it does worrying about it getting lost in the mail

- replaying social interactions where I was socially awkward and trying to assure myself I didn't offend anyone

- after i leave the house I was babysitting at, I become concerned that the child passed in their sleep and wait until I get the call from them or police (ex. toddler brought a piggy bank into bed, I took it out and no coins spilled, but what if one did and she choked?)

- scared that my parents will stop breathing in their sleep or that they'll go into cardiac arrest and I won't be home

- suspicious when things are going well, feeling like something bad is going to happen

- anticipatory grief about my parents dying

Got deleted from unpopular opinion so sorry if its repetitive;

Not sure how unpopular it is but it definitely seems like people are way more accepting of it than I am...

Like the title says anytime a game developer (and its always the big game studios, for obvious $$$ reasons) put big name actors into video games it makes the game unplayable for me.

Some examples would be cyber punk with Keanu reeves or death stranding with that dude from the walking dead.. both of those games were completely unplayable for me even though I think, otherwise, I would have loved the gameplay, story, etc.

Beyond some recognizable actor who i may or may not care about completely breaking immersion for me it also just seems like such a waste of money for the studio and a money grab at the same time.

They could put my favorite actor of all time in a video game and I would still hate it because the whole point of a game is that they are creating a custom fantasy from the ground up - so it's beyond me why suddenly we need a digitized version of a film actor to suddenly be the star of whatever game.

Anyone experienced corneal laceration? How many days it take to get clear vision? My doctor just prescribed an eye drop and ointment, the pain and redness have gone but vision is still blurry after 4 days.

Be emotional when it comes to love, when it comes to showing appreciation or gratitude towrads the ones you love. Be feeling when it comes to loss or sorrow or pain. Be felling when you need to be.

Be detatched when it comes to your work or responsibilities. As in act like a robot, you do things you don't like to do sometimes and you do them like you love em.

I find this simplifies life and makes even the hardest parts enjoyable yk?

I have always had a very good life. Ever since i have been young, my family has given me everything i have ever wanted. So why do i feel so sad and feel like i lack the attention that i truly want? I never thought of making a reddit account until now and im sitting here writing this wondering if this is truly worth the time. I have never been fond of reading tweets and reading in general so here i go. When i was younger my family always made sure that they gave me everything i had asked for. Although my mom did not have a lot of money, she still made sure me and my sister had stuff. For some odd reason, i slowly drifted off and felt like i was not worth being there. If i can remember, these thoughts started when i was about 10 years old. This is also the time that I learned that i could tal to people online and tell them about my thoughts and feelings. I ended up online dating and nothing bad came out of it. Yes we would break up and i would be a little sad but i got over it. I also made some real friends along the way as i played roblox. I had many friendgroups, relationships, and even online "parents" i could look up to. In real life i was very normal and i would say popular so i was not sure why i was so weird. After my mom stopped paying attention to me and focussed more on my sister, i started learning about subcultures like shtwt, edtwt, and nsfw things like yaoi and porn. I also started talking to people way older than me and they would get me things on royale high and other roblox games. After that "era" was over, i moved to discord and joined problematic servers which got BOTH of my accounts banned. I know that is a good thing but after being in such egative communities for so long i feel that i had no one to talk to once my two accounts got deleted. I also started hardcore cutting myself as a way to cope.I am now older and still feel that i am not enough. I feel that i am ADDICTED to things that can ruin my future.

Has anyone else had the same problems or can they relate? i just really want to have someone be able to tell me what i should do. I have als started anxiety medication not too long ago and it has helped but what are things i can do in day to day life to make me feel better.

When texting I sometimes mistakenly spell some simple words wrong. I don't understand my brain. Is like it moves so fast than my fingers. Missing words in between sentences etc. And when texting you don't have the luxury to proofread every single sentence before sending especially on WhatsApp.

I once made a simple mistake when texting with a friend. I mistakenly spelt a super simple word wrong. I didn't catch it early to be corrected by this guy. Someone I perform better than in school. I was so embarrassed!!!

I'm at a point with weed where i smoke it to feel good BUT i do it so often that I'm starting to get concerned. While that hasn't really affected how much i enjoy getting high, I'm starting to want to just be consistently happy and not rely on weed as a pick me up all the time.

it concerned me the most when i tried to go without it for a day or two and it felt impossible to see my life without weed. i Realize this is a problem in itself but my biggest concern is...

WILL i be able to be happy regularly after becoming so reliant on marijuana?

Like i do it right after i get off work, right after im done getting ready in the morning on my days off AND im smoking all day on the days im off.

I'm confused because i want to believe that I'm "just one of those people that weed works for" but at the same time i think people that tell themselves that are lying to themselves because they're deep in addiction.

i still enjoy smoking it but i think my potential is being snubbed becuase im smoking it.

but at the same time im worried that ill still be the same person after i stop smoking.

so im finding it hard to tell if i should quit or not.

What actually makes someone a bad person? I often wonder this about myself, because I easily get frustrated and can often be an angry loser. I often feel alone and often berate myself for such mistakes as my goal in life is to be a good person.

So I know what is to be done to be good, but I am lazy and fail to correct my mistakes despite knowing what must be corrected. Impulse and general unhappiness and loneliness stops it every time. Sometimes it isn’t even that, it’s just adrenaline. So, using myself as an example, does that make me bad as a person? Or just lame and shitty?

On the other hand, i have met people who have committed horrible crimes, who have lied to extreme extents and who have cheated on their partners.

I have also met people who are so kind and loving, but who also have intense gossipy streaks and extremely judgemental personalities. I have met people who constantly put others down for their own enjoyment (I’ve been on the end of that a good few times), but also hugely kind and encouraging people who have had incredible bursts of anger and have ruined relationships with it.

I guess I’m having a nit of a crisis of personality myself, as my anger and impulsive behaviour is being worsened by loneliness and is pulling people away from me. But what actually DOES make someone a bad person? Because it’s so grey for me, and some people who I love have been deemed bad despite me thinking that they are alright. It’s just something that is very complicated for me, and I would like to understand further. Morality is a strange concept.

37 year old male from US. Removed from what the yoots are listening to. So what are you listening to? Not just asking zoomers but that’s what I’m most clueless on.

I’m surprised when young people I work with put on the music I grew up with, but at their age I was also jamming to 1970s music my dad grew up with.

I “listen to everything” but mostly bass music now. The Mountain Goats are my favorite band and I will bump anything Talib Kweli or Kendrick.

Edit: you all have better taste than me.