I hate being the one that can smell stuff strongly. My little brother (13) smells like milk that's about to expire, and it's affecting me the most because I can smell him from another room. It started happening sometime around last month.

No one else said anything until I pointed it out. My mom has a perfume that fixed my sister's bad smell, but my little brother doesn't like it because it's perfume.

His clothes are what smell that way, but I don't know what. He eats the same thing as everyone else, spends a lot of time on his laptop (mostly drawing dreamworks characters or watching movies), and showers once a day, idk why.

But his clothes are on him, so obviously he's the one that smells like it. Right now i wish he would just put on the perfume so the smell can go away but he's being stubborn, and if i spray the room then my dad will get mad at me.

I thought it was my cat, since my little brother is always trying to hold her, but she smells like shampoo, and the smell started long before we got her.

I’m 24 and honestly feel lost in life. I don’t know what career path to take, what my hobbies or interests are, or what I genuinely want to do with my life.

It’s affecting my confidence, happiness and relationship with my girlfriend. I feel like I should have things figured out by now, but I don’t even know where to start.

For anyone who has been through something similar, what helped you find your direction? What advice would you give your 24 year old self?

I’d genuinely appreciate any advice or personal experiences.

Hi, I wanted to ask for your advice on how to handle a situation that happened recently.
I was walking my dog when I noticed another dog loose on the street. It followed me, so I tried to find its owner. Eventually, the dog led me to its owner’s house, and I rang the doorbell. Unfortunately, the owner had another dog inside—a Doberman—that came out and attacked me. For context, I’m 5’3”.
Despite the owner’s attempts to call the dog back, it continued trying to attack me. When her husband came out to help, he also struggled to get the dog under control until he eventually managed to grab it and pull it back inside.
As a result, I injured my right knee, sprained my right ankle, and scraped my left calf. I sought medical attention and have documentation of my injuries, which I’ve already shared with the owners.
I initially asked the owners how they wanted to handle the situation and explained that I would file a police report if necessary. They mentioned that they would need to go through their insurance.
I was simply trying to help return the loose dog safely because I was concerned it could get hurt in the street. Unfortunately, I ended up being injured while trying to help.
I’ve reached out to the owner to discuss a reasonable settlement, but before deciding on my next steps, I wanted to get some advice. Would you recommend continuing to work toward a resolution directly with the owners and their insurance company, or filing a police report as well? I’d appreciate any insight into how best to protect myself and handle this situation.

( this is not a medical question I’ve been to the doctor and have a treatment plan!!) I recently tore my ACL and won’t be able to get surgery on it until January. In the meantime, I’m unable to work at my current job due to the physicality and had to stop interviewing for another new job I was applying for for the same reason.
I know everyone is going to say “remote work” but it ain’t that easy to find a remote job when my resume is filled with more physical credentials. I got an art degree for gods sake! The average remote role isn’t going to hire me, so what should I do? Are there any weird side hustles less able bodied people are doing?

should i go to an optic and ask them to fix it this never hapendd to me in 9 years of wearing them
im not gonna wear them to uni but i cant go without them too long
how mych approximately would they charge so i can save up

So, I don’t know if I’m in the right place for this, but I hope so.

This has been getting worse over the last 3 years- I repeatedly keep feeling the need, when alone or with my partner, to make noises. It varies from making unintelligible noises, to words (sometimes saying hello/ good night/ goodbye, especially if my partner is in the room), to swearing at nobody / nothing at all. I just said fuck off twice to an empty room in a sing song voice and I have no idea why.

It’s not really something I want to go to a doctor about (particularly as frankly, healthcare in my country really won’t care about this) and so far I’m managing to not have the impulses around other people so it’s not life ruining

I just want to know why I can’t seem to stop it…

Hi everyone,

I actually posted a similar question in r/careerguidance, but I wanted to see what people here think as well.

I'm a 3rd-year college student majoring in CS, and I'm considering quitting my part-time job as a pharmacy tech. I only work about once a week for 6-7 hours, but lately I feel like I'm burning out.

This semester I'm taking 5 classes, I'm a commuter, and I also do research at my university. The research is pretty flexible since most of it can be done on my computer, and the professor I work with is very laid back about deadlines and scheduling.

Some days I leave home around 6:30 AM and don't get back until 6:00-7:30 PM. On those days, I have absolutely no energy left to study or do homework. By the time the weekend comes around, I just want to sleep, relax, and recover from the week. After work, I usually feel so drained that I end up watching Netflix, scrolling TikTok, or doing anything except schoolwork. Then I feel guilty because I know I should be using that time to study.

One thing that makes this decision easier is that I already accepted a co-op offer for the spring that will pay about $10/hour more than my pharmacy tech job. Also, money isn't a huge concern right now because I'm fortunate enough that my parents cover my tuition and most of my expenses.

On the other hand, I feel guilty about the idea of having no income for a few months. I like contributing to my Roth IRA and investing a little money here and there.

Another thing holding me back is that I'm a very introverted and socially awkward person. Honestly, this job is one of the only things that forces me to interact with coworkers and customers, and I feel like it's helped me get a little more comfortable talking to people. If I quit, I'm worried I'll lose that.

There are also a couple of toxic coworkers who can really ruin my mood some days, which definitely doesn't help.

So I'm kind of torn. Part of me thinks I should focus on school, research, my health, and getting sufficient rest. The other part of me worries I'll regret quitting, losing income, and stepping away from one of the few situations that pushes me out of my comfort zone socially.

What would you do in my situation? Do you think quitting sounds reasonable, or am I overlooking something?

Thanks for any advice.

I’m a freshman at college and I’m struggling a lot right now with my social life. I went from seeing my friends and family every single day to just maybe seeing people on evenings and it hurts.

I have my evenings open as I get all my work done during the day and I try to ask in the group chat of 5 or so people if anyone wants to do anything, or go exploring or just walking with me in the city, watch a movie or whatever and recently I’ve texted like three times in the chat and got no responses.

When we do hangout we have so much fun and I can tell we get along but I’ve been initiating a lot and it not really going anywhere.

I’ve been getting over my fear of initiating and reaching out, plus the whole bit about “I don’t want to bother them” or “I don’t want to seem too desperate” but I just want to have company on the evenings when I can and I don’t know if I am bothering people by my asking.

There’s one person that I’ve gotten close to but again I feel weird reaching out so much directly to them and don’t want to seem clingy.

I’m perfectly happy doing my own thing and exploring during the day but I just feel so lonely during those evenings where I have nothing to do that I want to cry.

My friend (M36) has bought his 13-year-old niece four BuzzBallz for a Halloween party next weekend. She asked for two, but he bought four because they were on offer. He even suggested she could sell two to make her money back.
I’ve voiced my concerns, but he’s still going to give them to her. He drank at 13/14 himself, so I don’t think he sees it as a big deal.
We don’t even know whether adults will be supervising. She’s already got a difficult home life, and I feel like her uncle should be looking out for her.
We haven’t fallen out, but I want to bring it up again before the party. How can I get him to take my concerns seriously without sounding like I’m lecturing him?

I’m just worried about my friend

So it’s been a while I started college and our college is kinda intense a lot of pressure and work and competition and most of us kinda started therapy because of the work load and family issues or just talk to each other but there’s this one friend of mine who is feeling burnt out and u can see her spark reducing each time u see her she told her roommate who told me that she’s kinda feeling depressed (idk how bad it is cuz she’s not giving much details) and she’s not been able to complete her work cuz of her anxiety or what she’s going through I’ve been there for her it seems like she can’t bear the stress and the workload from college which is understandable but in my mind I can understand but I feel like you can see it coming. I’ve tried to get her to see a therapy since our college offers free therapy and she’s not ready to try since her mom visited her and told her she’s overreacting about the stress and work idk what to do I just heard form her she fainted and been feeling light headed idk what to do she won’t listen to me about therapy and i try to be there for her but even there is workload on me so I can’t be there for her 24/7

Guys, I have a breathing issue that seems to get worse when I sleep with the AC on at night, and I'm looking for advice. 😭

I can't sleep without the AC at night because my parents insist on keeping it on. But whenever I wake up in the morning after sleeping with the AC, my breathing feels weird, like something isn't right. Interestingly, I don't have much of a problem when the AC is on during the afternoon, but at night and by the next morning, I feel uncomfortable with my breathing.

Even car AC doesn't suit me. I usually try to keep the windows open, but my family scolds me for it. 😭 I also get motion sickness on hilly roads, like when travelling to Kerala or Ooty, so I usually carry Amrutanjan with me.

My main concern is the breathing issue after sleeping with the AC. Has anyone experienced something similar? Could it be because of the cold air, dryness, dust in the AC filter, or something else? What can I do to prevent this, especially since I can't avoid using the AC at night?

Any advice would be really appreciated! 🙏

Btw I checked my breathing its normal idk why this happens? am I mentally affected?

I'm wondering how long i should wait without consuming thc before applying for the job i took 4 hits off a thc vape on october 22nd and i took 3 hits on october 20th i am not normally a thc user and before this week i haven't consumed much at all for months how long should i wait before applying so I dont test positive

Hello, Reddit

Looking for some advice or opinions to bounce around

I've never had any interaction with my bio father, not even named on my birth certificate.

The man I call my Dad has been in my life since I was 3 years old and I love him very much.

I'm 30 next year, my Mum passed away in 2024 and she was the only one who had ever had contact. I had a name and she told me when I was younger when she asked me that she told him I wasn't interested and that he had other daughters since. I...don't know if he's ever attempted reaching out really.

I've never quite been able to shift an uncertainty surrounding this and every time I've searched the name before I've never had a result (it's unique) until tonight

Anyhow - I don't know if I should message

Thing is I can't even tell what I'm trying to gain from this. My Mum is gone, that link is gone. I don't know if I have something in the back of my mind that he should at least know that she's passed if he's tried reaching out?? I don't think I want to build anything at this stage in my life anyway as I have my Dad and I'm not exactly a youngster

I don't know who to even discuss this with, I don't think I could tell my Dad even

I'm sorry if this is vague because I dont want to go into details of what happened. But I blame everyone who was involved. I blame the perpetrator, the person who defended it and called me a jealous liar, the friends that i lost because they didnt believe me. The friends and the perpetrator don't mean much to me. But the second person I'm for some reason the most mad at. I guess I expected more from them given their role.

But theyre otherwise living a good life, at least displaying one. They're christian. They're in a public service field, caring for people who need the extra care. Their tiktok reposts are about anti ice and pro love and kindness. I dont get it. They were vile to me. Ive been going through severe depressive episodes for months because of what happened to me, some resulting in hospital stays, 2 voluntary and 2 involuntary. But theyre so pro mental health and being kind and loving one another. Why not me? Why didn't they hear me out or display any of that love and kindness and sympathy to me?

I currently live with sevenother girls, and i’m fairly close to them all. Next year, the group is splitting up, and I’m feeling pressured to choose between two close friends.

Person A asked me to live with her and another girl next year. I agreed because Person A and I spend more time together than I do with most of the others. We often spend time together and we’re very close, and I genuinely enjoy being around her. I do want to live with Person A, which is why I said yes.

However, I’m also very close to Person B. We also currently live together, spend a lot of time together, and I really enjoy her company. When I told her that I had agreed to live with Person A, she was very mature and understanding. She didn’t make me feel guilty or create any drama, which I appreciated, but it also made me feel more conflicted. Person B is fun, relaxed, and someone I feel very comfortable living with.

The difficult part is that I feel as though Person A was the driving force behind the group splitting up. I don’t necessarily mean that in a negative way, because she has her own reasons for wanting a different living arrangement, and I understand that everyone is allowed to choose who they live with. However, because she initiated the conversation and asked me to join her, I now feel as though I was pushed into making a decision when i’d rather us all just live together again.

I’m not sure whether the decision is completely final yet, but I feel like I’ve already committed to Person A. At the same time, part of me is wondering whether I should reconsider and live with Person B instead. I like both of them and genuinely want to live with both of them, so this feels less like choosing between a good and bad option and more like choosing between two people I care about. I’m worried that I’m effectively choosing a favourite, even though that isn’t how I feel.

There’s also Person C, who is very close to Person A. Person A has some personal reasons for not wanting to live with Person C next year, and I understand that those reasons may be valid. However, those reasons haven’t been properly explained to Person C, so she may be completely blindsided when she finds out that Person A is making other housing plans without her.

Person C isn’t particularly close to the rest of the group, so I’m worried about how she’ll find somewhere to live and who she’ll live with. I feel uncomfortable knowing that she may be left in a difficult position, especially because she and Person A are close.

I understand that choosing housemates is personal, and nobody is obligated to live with someone just because they are friends. I also don’t want to make Person A seem like a bad person or suggest that she isn’t allowed to make this decision. My concern is more about how the situation is being handled and whether Person C should be told directly and given enough time to make her own housing arrangements.

I’m now feeling stuck. I reallyt do want to live with both person A and B. Person A and B can’t live together due to other commitments btw. but i just have no idea what is best for me and everyone else.

In middle school I had this teacher who I really hated, he was really arrogant and self centered and yet he was popular among the students. I had a lot of trauma from my middle school, I had no friends, kept my mouth shut for 8 hours, got yelled at by my teachers constantly, humiliated, had meltdowns in the bathroom and all that stuff. After I got home I just wanted to forget everything about my school, but thoughts of it kept popping up and marred everything I did. The teacher I didn’t like used to give these corny motivational speeches like “don’t give up” or “hard work beats natural talent”, and at first I didn’t really care about them but when I tried to forget about school my mind kept acting perversely and thinking about those speeches. Whenever I was studying or doing something productive, those speeches would pop up against my will, and I would lose my will to continue what I was doing because I didn’t want his speeches to be the cause of my succeeding. This escalated to the point that I couldn’t even say or do something because it might have been caused one way or another have been caused by him, like how one speech by a train of butterfly effects led to me eventually saying what I was going to say, however remote the cause. It’s been exhausting and I’ve stopped all my hobbies and things I love and have been rotting away scrolling because everytime I do something other than that it’s caused by HIM.

(Btw I paused and deleted and contemplated while writing this post numerous times to make sure I don’t use vocabulary that I remember to have come out of his mouth. I feel uncomfortable posting because perverse and productive or two words I remember him saying and my brain says that because I used his words my post will get more views and eventually he will ultimately be the cause of my getting better.)

I was approached by 2 teenage boys while I was on my way to a friend’s house and they asked if they could pray for me, and I said yeah because I believe also in God and I need all the help I can get when I’m about to get on the road 🫩. After they prayed they asked if I wanted to check out their thing on Sunday for young adults and I said sure, so they asked for my number to give me the details. The whole time I didn’t know what their religion was, and only found out after looking up the address of the church that they texted me. I only go to Catholic/Christian churches, so I don’t really want to go anymore or get texts and calls from them. How do I politely tell them that?

My mom has always had mental health issues when I was growing up, but this past year they have gotten much worse. It started with her randomly leaving to go live with some guy off the internet, then to her living with homeless people, she came back and then tried to break into my neighbors house twice, and then claimed to not remember doing it, she then was giving random men our address. She also physically hurt my brother and my sister. Then it got even worse she started talking to herself, like having hour long conversations just talking to herself like she was talking to someone who wasn’t there, she would even deepen her voice say something then respond back in her regular voice. She said she could see this person as well but there was no one there. Today I thought maybe asking if she was ok and who she was talking to would maybe snap her out of it, (keep in mind I’m 20 years old, and have no experience dealing with a person like this) I just wanted to snap her out of it, maybe make her realize that she isn’t talking to a real person just to herself, she at first seemed normal and said she hasn’t been talking at all, I then responded and said but I could hear you talking, she then flipped completely changed she got super angry and said “ if you lie to my face again little girl your going to regret it” while she was standing like she was about to lunge at me, so I left the house so i didn’t escalate the situation more. I’m just at a loss my siblings and I feel unsafe in the house worried she might do something because she’s completely unpredictable right now. She has called the police saying we are locking her up and we have never done that it’s impossible to be locked inside our house, she has threatened to ruin my dad and his family lives, she’s been saying crazy lies about everyone to her family and random people online. I don’t know what to do, any advice would be greatly appreciated. I want to get her committed to a mental hospital but that has to be voluntary or she has to commit a crime. But every time she has committed a crime she has only been there for a couple days to a week and then they send her back home.

I have so much I need to get done, yet it's been impossible to do it because of the fact that I lose motivation, which makes it nearly impossible. I'm holding myself back in a lot of different ways because I do not have very well developed self discipline, and I just shut down.

I, 21M, have always struggled with deadlines, being on time, discipline and sleep schedules to the point that it has pretty much ruined my life.

I consitently achieve below my talent, and I pretty much have had trouble studying for extended periods of time forever. Like, I am able to sit and study for 5-6 hours at best, even when the exam is the next and I haven't studied a single thing.

It wasn't an issue until college because I had always been able to get by fine without studying particularly much, but after entering college and having to study for competitive exams and stuff I still can't seem to sir for extended periods. Even if I have 1 or 2 days where I'm able to study for a good amount of time. I will go back not doing shit after that.

I always always struggled with getting to places on time. Iam always late despite getting the notion I should start leaving earlier. But I just end up staring at my phone and doing nothing.

I don't sleep enough. Even if I'm dead tired I still prefer staring at my phone even if there's nothing interesting on there. It's like my brain just doesn't want to shut off and keep staring at my phone.

I have moments where I feel really positive and get some motivation to improve my life but that lasts a day or 2 maximum and then I lose all motivation and feel despair.

Even if I have a job interview next day and i rwally want to do well I just end up wasting most of my time.

I have massive self esteem issued.

I have been to therapy 3-4 a couple of years back times but ADHD wasn't really brought up at all. So I don't think I have adhd. But I just want to know if there might be a possibility.

Even during my childhood I kept up late at nuhht fantasizing and thinking abiut stuff, before I got a phone. It's like my brain always been addicted to stimulation since I was born.

I have had spells of good grades in my childhood where i did put some extra effort into studying, but it has been so tough since covid. I am addicted to my screen, never sleep enough, keep fucking up my life. I desperately want to be successful in life, but I keep botching every chance I get. And I run away every time things get tough or my probability of success looks uncertain.

I don't want to live like this.

If my condition doesn't resemble adhd, but is a mentality problem, then how should I go about it?

So I’m on the fence about selling my PlayStation to get back some control in my life fiscally.

I’m not in a crazy amount of debt but I have been made insolvent before, so I know what’s it’s like when people are just chasing money from you, and all that jazz.

But I’m like this cash can create a buffer, pay off my credit card, or pay 4 months towards my contracts so I’m just not sure if it’s the wisest decision.

I do also have an Nintendo Switch 2 what I seem to enjoying playing more anyhow.

Im sixteen and Im in college and part time work so basically whatever day im not at college im working and im also really badly depressed. I havent been able to bring myself to get out of bed for work or college in two weeks. Im on medication but it doesn’t do anything because I feel the exact same. I dont like work or college really but if i do nothing ill be depressed. I dont know what im supposed to do in this situation because its my first job.

For the past 4 days I had this nasty cold, and yesterday I sneezed too hard which caused a little pain in me ribs. I didn't think much of it but now at 00:20 at night and I was in absolute pain, I've finally managed to lay down on my good side.

How long will it take to feel better? (Also my cold is practically gone).