How do you know if someone is meant for you, platonic or romantically

I get it, too cheesy. Everyone talks about a healing journey. But I, 30F, actually need it.

Abusive marriage with so many lies and manipulation. I had to leave for the sake of myself and the child.

Was diagnosed with PTSD and borderline personality disorder. I work full time in a high stress job dealing with a special population of adults.

But, I want to get to know myself again… but how?

I live in a rural area and the closest city with activities is 1.5hrs away.

As a woman, I genuinely value sisterhood and believe women should support and uplift one another. I want meaningful friendships with other women, but honestly, most women I’ve met have been so unnecessarily mean. The gossiping, passive-aggressive comments, fake compliments, jealousy, subtle competition, and pretending to like someone while secretly talking behind their back. It’s exhausting and genuinely hurtful.

What frustrates me most is how much we talk about feminism, sisterhood, and women supporting women, yet some women can’t even show basic kindness to one another.

I know not every woman is like this, but why does finding genuine friendships with other women feel so difficult?

Also, remember to additionally consider

- Societies reaction to hearing a collective voice, speech, etc and actions taken.

- How it possibly would affect society, if at all

- What is your intent behind saying this.

ADDITIONALLY, if people knew it was you, what would you say instead? Would you say the same thing? Completely change it? Why or why not?

Not necessarily cheating or some massive argument. I mean something small that you probably wouldn't have thought much of before but afterwards you just couldn't look at them the same way Could be good or bad.

You've probably seen people who lie, manipulate others, and use kindness for their own benefit — yet somehow, they seem to get ahead in life.

Meanwhile, some genuinely good people struggle, get taken for granted, and end up questioning whether their kindness was a mistake.

So here's something I've been wondering:

Is being a good person a strength, or does the world sometimes take advantage of people who are too kind?

I'm not saying we should become cruel. But maybe we need to learn the difference between having a good heart and allowing everyone to hurt us.

What's your opinion? Should we always remain kind, even when the world isn't kind to us?

Think about it. Born in Saudi Arabia? Probably Muslim. Born in India? Probably Hindu. Born into a Christian family? Probably Christian.

According to a 2025 Pew Research Center study, 91% of adults aged 18–54 worldwide still identify with the religion (or lack of religion) they were raised with. Among those raised Muslim or Hindu, the figure is 99%.

Yet somehow, millions of people are absolutely convinced THEIR religion is the truth and everyone else is wrong.
If you had been born into a different family on the other side of the planet, you’d probably be defending a completely different god with the exact same confidence.

I'm struggling with my reason right now, and just wondering what keeps other people going?

I would rather not to enter the room 😆