I'm a student and I'm not from a psychology or programming background. I have been stuck on one question for a while: what do we actually mean when we say that, as humans, we have emotion and feel emotion, but AIs don't have emotion and don't feel emotion? When I asked people what they mean when they say they feel emotion, most gave a blank look or got defensive, as if it was just obvious. Here is my thinking, and I would like to hear where it breaks. This is a hypothesis, not a finding.
A newborn mostly runs on bodily needs and survival instincts. The senses create neural connections. Hunger makes us eat, and pain makes us afraid. We slowly come to love the people who take care of us, like our parents. We learn words, and we learn what's good or bad from the people around us. That's how a value system grows, and it builds a goal system: simple and small in a child's world, bigger and more tangled with age (related: Barrett, 2017).
My idea is that the core of emotion comes from that value and goal system. Love fits too. It starts because someone cared for us, and it stays even after we forget the original reason (Allport, 1937, calls this functional autonomy).
The body is a part of this too. Our survival instincts and our goals train the body to release particular chemicals in particular situations, and those chemicals feed back into how we feel and act (Damasio, 1994; Panksepp, 1998). I think this is a big part of why emotion feels the way it does, and it may be the missing extra factor for AI. The closest equivalent for AI might be internal signals that change how the whole system behaves, like how much risk it takes, how focused it is, and how fast it learns (Doya, 2000, 2002; Keramati & Gutkin, 2014; Moerland et al., 2018).
Humans have hundreds, maybe thousands, of goals at once, all tied to each other. One action can serve several goals, and the next can serve a completely different goal that connects to a far-off one. That's why our behavior looks so chaotic (Simon, 1967; Sloman & Croucher, 1981; Dulberg et al., 2023). Complexity alone isn't emotion, but it trains our brain on what to feel, meaning our chemical releases: when to feel bad and when to feel happy. So it is important for emotion.
People also say AI cannot have emotion because it doesn't understand what it's doing. But do we understand emotion? I don't think we do. The people I asked couldn't explain it either. Still, our brain produces it, because a complex goal system built over years created it without anyone needing to understand it first. So not understanding can't be a reason to rule AI out (Dennett, 2017, calls this competence without comprehension).
Another common objection is that AI learned from our culture through text, not by living. Language models already score above the human average on emotional intelligence tests (Schlegel et al., 2025), and Anthropic reported internal emotion-like representations in Claude that influence its behavior (Anthropic, 2026). But this is functional, not necessarily felt. I think the missing piece is the lived developmental process: an environment where things matter, caregivers, social norms, and a goal mesh that keeps growing and pruning the way brain connections do (Hiolle et al., 2014).
I only found afterward that parts of this overlap with older work, like Herbert Simon, Aaron Sloman, Kenji Doya, and Lola Cañamero's developmental robotics. I would like to know where mine differs, or doesn't.
My hypothesis can be tested. An AI raised through a long developmental process like this should predict emotional reactions better than a text-only model in situations where text alone isn't enough: new situations, one specific person's history, and relationships that change over time. If it doesn't, that counts against my idea. It could also address something many people say when talking to AI: it feels like it is saying things but doesn't seem to care. When I talk with a human, it feels like they understand my emotions, but with AI it doesn't feel that way. I think an AI raised like this might give us that feeling.
If we raised an AI through that kind of long process, would we see something close to us? I'm not claiming it would be conscious. I don't know of an experiment that does exactly this. Am I making sense, and what gaps do you see?
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