r/Assistance • • 9d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT Reminder: Christmas gift requests are BANNED on r/Assistance

105 Upvotes

Since the rule breakers are already here, just a reminder.

If this is your first holiday season at [r/Assistance](r/Assistance), here are some things to keep in mind:

We do not allow requests for Christmas gifts (or Hannukah gifts, or Kwanzaa gifts, or Yule gifts...)

There are subreddits dedicated to these requests so that our subreddit can remain focused on essentials. Which brings us to our next point...

r/RandomActsofChristmas is opening for the 2026 season on November 1, 2026!

This is the only subreddit we recommend for folks needing help making Christmas bright for their kids. They do AMAZING work every year, and they have the capacity to handle everything Christmas so our subreddit can focus on other more urgent situations.

Links to other Christmas gifting subs are forbidden and will be removed automatically. Efforts to bypass this will result in a ban.

Requests for Christmas travel and Christmas meals are allowed.

This year we want to put some focus on the heart of the holidays -- people rather than presents. Requests for travel to see family for Christmas, requests for a turkey dinner with friends -- these can be requested without issue.

Christmas/Holiday Offers

While we don't allow requests for Christmas/holiday gifts in [r/Assistance](r/Assistance), we will continue to allow **offers** of gifts, meals and other holiday-related cheer so our givers who want to give here in [r/Assistance](r/Assistance) can do so.

Some examples:

- "Help me buy Christmas gifts for my family" -- not allowed

- "Want to go home to X for Christmas" -- allowed

- "Let me order your family Christmas dinner" -- allowed

- "Will buy a Christmas gift for your child up to $20" allowed

A reminder that unless an offer is explicitly for Christmas requests, **the same rules apply.** If you are posting an offer over the holiday season, please help our mod team out by letting us know if it's essentials only or if folks can request gifts.


r/Assistance • • 2d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT Updates to our NSFW content policy

36 Upvotes

Hello all,

About a year ago we made a change to our rules that accounts which post, solicit, and distribute sexually explicit content may not participate on r/Assistance.

Our mod team has recently come together to review this rule and how we can better implement it.

Our focus going forward is to only restrict accounts which are currently and actively using their accounts in this manner.

r/Assistance’s definition of sexually explicit content includes not only photos and videos but also OnlyFans/Fansly links in profiles, sugar arrangements, findom/paypig arrangements, and in person/hookup/phone sex invitations.

Rule changes:

  • Accounts which have only posted, solicited, or distributed sexually explicit content older than 3 years ago, and otherwise meet our posting requirements, may now post and request.
  • Accounts which have deleted sexually explicit content completely from their accounts, and otherwise meet our posting requirements, may now post and request. Mods will be checking how recent this content has been posted and deleted to ensure this isn’t abused.
  • Accounts which have hidden their sexually explicit content to conceal it will be required to unhide it and will be allowed or restricted based on the age of the content as per above.

Case examples:

  • User with OnlyFans/Fansly link in profile — not allowed. If the OF link is the only evidence of content selling on account, they will be asked to remove it and may then request.
  • User actively selling, posting, or soliciting (looking for) content (within last 3 years) — not allowed.
  • User has content from 2020 on profile, however has stopped and is now posting in other subreddits frequently — allowed
  • User has deleted content from 2021 from profile, meets all posting requirements even with that content deleted — allowed
  • User has hidden recent content (within last 3 years) — not allowed
  • User has hidden old content from 2021 as they no longer do it — will be requested to unhide profile before allowing
  • User has deleted content from 2 months ago — will be confirming purpose of account with poster

If you need further clarification on a particular situation please send us a modmail.

Thank you.


r/Assistance • • 7h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED I really need toilet paper...

16 Upvotes

Hey, ive been struggling for a really long time. I should have better pay by next month but at the moment i have -10 bucks and one roll left for me and my household.

I made this wishlist. I also put trash bags and some shelf stable foods. If you can comfortably spare 15 bucks id greatly appreciate you taking a look.

Thank you

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/27Y4MQFHJK38P


r/Assistance • • 6h ago

REQUEST Requesting $30 for food

4 Upvotes

Haven’t eaten in a couple days I used the last of my money to pay rent at my job (I’m a barber) but whatever I make this week I have to pay rent ($400) so really I just want enough to atleast get myself a meal I looked all over and found nothing I’m home alone and for better context I don’t drive cus I don’t own a car so it’s kinda frustrating just trying to get around in general hence me doordashing. I’m willing to sneak out my parents car to just go somewhere near by to pick up a meal.


r/Assistance • • 19h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED in dire need of food (running out)

25 Upvotes

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2CFP6N7HF8UCG?ref_=wl_share

Hi everyone. I’m currently in a really difficult financial situation and I’m hoping I can get some help with groceries.

I’m a college student and I’ve been having a really hard time finding a job. Right now, the only thing helping me get by is the small amount of money my parents are able to give me, but it isn’t enough to cover my basic food needs. I currently have very little money left, and I’m struggling to afford food until I can find a job.

I made an Amazon wishlist with shelf-stable foods and other groceries that I would actually be able to use. There are a variety of different price points on the list, so please don’t feel like you need to buy a lot or spend a certain amount. Anything at all would genuinely help me.

I did add some soda to the list because it’s something I personally enjoy, but it is absolutely not a necessity, so please don’t feel obligated to get it. Please just choose whatever you feel comfortable purchasing from the list.

I’m really grateful that communities like this exist. I know everyone has their own financial circumstances, so even just taking the time to read this means a lot to me. Thank you so much to anyone who is able and willing to help.

also I will add pads to this list because I need some too. really running out

EDIT: FULFILLED 🩷
Thank you so much to the person who helped me! My pads, ramen, and mac & cheese have been purchased, so my essential needs have been fulfilled. and cheezits by another person was purchased.

Pepsi are still on the wishlist, but neither of those are necessities, so please do not feel obligated to purchase them. I’m incredibly grateful for the help I’ve already received. Thank you so much! 🥹🩷


r/Assistance • • 9h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Requesting $30 for gas

5 Upvotes

Recently started a new job however my first paycheck isnt until the end of next week. Asking for $30 to get gas so I can get to and from work until my paycheck hits. I only have paypal available


r/Assistance • • 2h ago

SURVEY Final SCHOOL Project Help! (Quick Survey)

1 Upvotes

I need 100 participants for a Final Class Project, the survey will be less than 5 minutes to complete! Thank you if you decide to participate! :)

Survey Link: Click here


r/Assistance • • 2h ago

VOTES [Vote for Vote] Free daily vote for my friend in the Maxim Big Game Contest — happy to return the favor!

0 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

My friend Crystal is currently competing in the Maxim Big Game contest and is trying to maintain her #1 position in the final voting round!

Voting Details:

Link: https://creators.maxim.com/t/UBFCY5U6

How to vote: Click "Free Daily Vote" (requires a standard quick Facebook/email login to verify you're a real human). This takes seconds and there are less than 3 days left in the contest!

Cost: 100% free!

Vote for Vote: If you have an active poll, contest entry, or survey you need support on, leave a comment below with your link once you've voted, and I’ll gladly return the favor!

Thank you so much for the support!

https://creators.maxim.com/t/UBFCY5U6


r/Assistance • • 16h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Single Father in Need

7 Upvotes

Hello Reddit Family,

My name is Nicholas, I am 28 years old, and I am a single father to a beautiful 8 year old girl, Chloe. We live in New York, and I went through hell and back with family court to get custody of her. She was forcibly removed from her mother’s home by CPS, and by the grace of god, I was able to save my daughter from her abusive environment.

I made the mistake this week of not budgeting well this week. I am used to living paycheck to paycheck as the sole provider to my daughter and I, but this week I had to pay the remaining balance of her birthday party on November 8th (209$) as well as her Halloween costume (45$). No, her mother does not pay child support and she has abandoned her visitation and parental rights as well.

I was hoping to ask for 50$, just to fill my gas tank. I had to call in to work today (thankfully I have PTO) because I only have 30 miles in my car and 2$ in my account. Any money would go straight into my gas tank so I can get back to work Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday, until payday on Friday.

Cash App would be the easiest as I have a physical debit card with them, but Venmo or Apple Pay would also be helpful if an alternative is needed.

I hope that everyone in here has a blessed day and an even better week. God bless 🙌

Updated to remove personal information / tags.


r/Assistance • • 21h ago

REQUEST Going for work.

3 Upvotes

I'm 19 and need a little help getting to the Netherlands to work

Hi everyone,

I'm 19 years old and from Romania. I was kicked out of my apartment, my parents no longer speak to me, and I'm currently staying in a community that has kindly given me a place to stay until I can find work.

I've tried finding a job in Romania, but unfortunately, I haven't managed to find one in time. I want to go to the Netherlands to work and build a better future for myself, but I don't even have enough money for the bus ticket.

I'm asking for help covering my travel costs and basic food expenses until my first paycheck. I'm not looking for an easy way out; I just want a chance to work and support myself.

Any donation, share, or advice would mean the world to me.

I started a fund raising for this too.

https://4fund.com/46z9ch

Thank you for reading my story and giving me a chance.

You can either help me or donate on my fundraiser, it's urgent, my bus reservation is on 30 of octomber.


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Need help with groceries and a bus pass to make it to Thursday.

6 Upvotes

Hello, it’s my first time posting here and I’m a little bit nervous and hopefully I followed the rules properly.

I am currently in Saskatchewan and have been on Saskatchewan Income Support for a few months due to mental health issues. I receive a food bank hamper every 2 weeks normally, but was unable to make my last food bank hamper last until the 29th of October when I receive my assistance income, due to the contents of the hamper (it varies).

If anybody is able to help me with groceries and a bus pass, (I receive a discount for a bus pass, it is $25CAD) and about $30 for groceries to last until Thursday I would appreciate it so much. The bus pass will allow me to get to and from a couple of appointments I have this week, as well as get to and from the grocery store, as I do not have a license.

I have to admit I feel a bit ashamed asking for help but I don’t speak with my family any longer and figured I would give it a shot here.

My amazon wishlist for groceries is Amazon if that is the preferred method.

Thanks,
J


r/Assistance • • 20h ago

REQUEST Falling Behind

0 Upvotes

Hello, Im in need of some assistance is possible. I have a $225 car payment thats over 2 weeks late and a $244 utility bill over due. Electricity could be shut off soon.

Cash app. Thank you 🙏


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST Embarrassed and never thought that I would ask strangers for help, but I'm hungry

21 Upvotes

I live in Alabama and am self-employed as a therapist and have fallen on hard times recently due to missing work due to illness (and not getting paid) and also unexpected car repairs, the cost of ongoing health issues (breast cancer and liver issues related to the hormone blocker that I have to take because of the breast cancer), and related medical expenses.

I owe my mortgage payment for October, and am a month behind on the power bill and water bill. I also owe my car payment that was due at the very end of September. Unfortunately, I "make too much" for any kind of assistance with my bills. I don't qualify for assistance with my mortgage because I would have to let it go 60 days past due.

I have negative $404 right now. I get a payment from Blue Cross (for claims submitted for counseling sessions) on Wednesday, and I am hoping to pay all but the car payment, which is $450 and will be paid off in 8 months. I won't have anything left after that, though. I'm seeing over 55 clients a week trying to catch up, but life keeps kicking me when I'm down.

I am open to any kind of assistance, but I would really appreciate a Target gift card so that I can get groceries and cat food/litter for my cat. $40 would be great. I'm really hungry and haven't had anything to eat all weekend. There's nothing left in the pantry, and my refrigerated food had to be thrown out a couple of weeks ago due to not having power for almost 24 hours because of the recent hurricane that hit the Gulf coast.

Thank you for your kindness.

ETA: Thank you to everyone for the kind words and for letting me know that I can add an Amazon list. 💜

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2SS6NTUQV7EFV?ref_=wl_share

I hope I did it correctly!


r/Assistance • • 9h ago

REQUEST Need assistance for dentist, at least 285 fast

0 Upvotes

I have been working to get my life back together after 2 years of a mental health crisis.

I please need at least $285 before tomorrow,

I had gathered cash to pay dentist but total cost is more than I was told to expect

I don't qualify for any credit as I messed it during the last two years and my dentist requires payment before services. I can't cancel or reschedule now as the window is closed.

Please if anyone can help, I would greatly appreciate it.

I have venmo and cashapp


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Hotel / Transport - Car Life Was Repo'd

29 Upvotes

Edit: Fulfilled just now by a very kind redditor. We'll be back once we get on our feet to pay it forward.

Posted a couple of days ago, and received no responses at all. This post will read differently, the situation has changed in positive and negative ways.

TL;dr - Lost the car we were living in to repo. In the greater Denver metro, and unexpected outdoor sleeping arrangements were tolerable until last night when it hit low 40s. Starting job Monday. Need to get through tonight and get some sleep and hopefully something to eat.

We are not eligible for the standard assistance channels such as city hotel voucher.

Wife and have been doing Lyft and Spark and sleeping in car, car got repo'd a few nights ago at the truck stop we were using as a base outside of town. We got back to town with what little stuff we have left, but now we're in trouble as it gets colder quickly.

Quite honestly, I'd like a hotel / night of sleep, and a shower and a chance to at least handwash some clothes before I start a new job tomorrow. The sidewalk has not been conducive to cleanliness, as much as we've tried.

FT job starts Monday, prefer not to name it publicly, not sure I can send a PDF offer in PM but happy to share details. Also have a PT offer I'd prefer not to take, but it's still on table for Monday as well.

Have PayPal, or we can name a specific hotel you could probably book online that's in the $65-70 range when I glanced a moment ago.

Looking to bridge a gap, and will happily accept any assistance. Not trying to be greedy. Put it this way - I seriously considered making a sign asking folks to _buy food for me_ because eating was more important (much) than money.


r/Assistance • • 13h ago

VOTES Looking for some community support! I’m nominated for KissFM’s Top Host and and would love your help/votes!

0 Upvotes

r/Assistance • • 17h ago

REQUEST Need help to pay rent

0 Upvotes

Hi , I am here again, last time I got help to buy my study material thanks to a very generous person 🙏🏽, im grateful. I need help again, I didn't think i would need to request for help again but unfortunately I fell behind on my rent on my hostel . I need to pay for half of last month and this month's rent.

I should've been able to pay the rent but the rent money I had was used to re remit fee for my exam bcs i failed, and also my part time job is not paying enough , I need 5000 rs(~53$) more to pay off the rent .

I am praying to God that this would be my last time asking money from others for my needs

Thank you for reading 🙏🏽


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST Leaving a financially abusive situation. Forgot to calculate for gas and food on the cross country move.

12 Upvotes

I am currently leaving a financially absuive situation. I dont like saying that cause I dont believe he was ever intentional he was just incompetent. But thats the best way to define "I haven't updated my ID in two moves and my glasses broke 3 years ago and my underwear have holes in them because I am consistently without money to care for myself".

I saved almost enough to rent a car and pay my bills at my new place long enough to find a job. I will have people there who can help me they just cant help right this moment. (I am renting a car rather than flying because I cannot bear to leave my fish behind. They're all thats got me through cause I know I have to make sure Im okay to make sure theyre okay.)

By my math, I was short ~170$ for the baseline bills, and then I remembered food and gas which I am calculating at approximately 300$.

I am doing doordash with my buddys car for a few hours a day today, tomorrow, and tuesday, and maybe a little before i get my rental but at most I can expect to make 150-180 with the time I have available. I cannot push the move back as with the starting holiday season rental prices are skyrocketing.

I have the money to spend, I just have to dig into my money for my first month of rent at my new place...

Tldr: I am 470 370 330 295 short on leaving a bad situation. I do not expect anyone to have that amount on hand. But 5 here or 10 there would do wonders even to my ability to go to my landlord and explain why im short. I would need it before the 5th of the November as that is when my bills are due. I only have paypal and zelle currently

EDIT:

I have obtained 100$ from an IRL friend.

Edit 2: i made 40 tonight after gas

Edit 3: we only made another 35... It was so slow


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

MEGATHREAD Sunday Sunnies Social Hour ☀️ October 25, 2026

6 Upvotes

Hello everyone! Happy summer!

Welcome to our new weekly (weekendly?) discussion post on r/Assistance! This is a spot for casual conversation, sharing positive vibes, and getting to know the fellow members of our wonderful community.

What to post here:

• ⁠Stories about yourself, your pets, your kids, etc.
• ⁠Recipes, recommendations, and other fun things to do.
• ⁠Positive stories about your experiences on r/Assistance.

What not to post here:

• ⁠Direct requests for assistance.
• ⁠Links of any kind -- for recipes just copy&paste or mention the name. (We may adjust our automoderator down the road)
• ⁠Soft begs/doom and gloom stories about how broke you are.
• ⁠Harassment to anyone.
• ⁠Complaints about the sub, the rules, or the mods.

The mod team will be monitoring these threads carefully to make sure everyone is following the rules and no shenanigans occur. If things go well, we will probably be automating these threads every Sunday even beyond summer.

Have fun!


r/Assistance • • 2d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Living in the car. Doordash has been very slow and we have no money to eat tonight.

50 Upvotes

My mother and I have been living in the car for about a month now. We've been doing doordash deliveries to make money but this past week the offers have been VERY slow. Sometimes as slow as one offer every few hours.

The only day we were somewhat successful was yesterday and today we've made 10 dollars that had to be spent mostly on gas. Now we don't have any money and the donations from the gofundme I have won't process until at the very earliest on monday. I have PayPal and chime. Cant use my cashapp because I still owe them money and they'll take anything I'm sent to cover the past due payments.

We could use $20 for food.


r/Assistance • • 2d ago

NO LONGER NEEDED Please help my cat Tom with his eye infection

21 Upvotes

Tom is my beloved cat, and right now, he needs help. He is suffering from an eye infection, and I’m trying to raise the money needed to get him proper veterinary care, treatment, and medication. He got him probably from fighting another cat or something, as you can see his paw is also hurt. He's everything to me, he's basically the only reason that motivates me to come home.

The vet basically told me he needs antibiotics and quality food until he gets better which I can't afford since I'm currently unemployed and living with my father which also he's also giving me a lot of headache and doesn't want the cat in his house but i keep him in only my room.

Tom came into my care after my mentally ill mother abandoned him. I couldn’t just turn my back on him. He deserves love, kindness, and a chance to live a happy, healthy life, no matter what he has been through.

It breaks my heart to see him unwell and know that he needs medical attention. I want to do everything I can to help him recover, relieve his discomfort, and give him the safe and loving home he deserves.

Unfortunately, I cannot cover all the expenses on my own, which is why I’m reaching out for help.

Every donation, no matter how small, will make a difference. Your contribution will go toward Tom’s veterinary consultation, eye treatment, medication, and any additional care the veterinarian recommends.

If you cannot donate, sharing this fundraiser would mean just as much to us. Even a small act of kindness could help Tom get the care he needs.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to everyone who takes the time to read Tom’s story, donate, or share this fundraiser. Your kindness means more than words can express.

Link for donation: https://whydonate.com/fundraising/help-my-cat-tommy-with-his-eye-infection

Edit: Thank you everyone, I wasn't able to get any donations but a good friend of mine borrowed me the money I needed so I bought Tommy everything he needs. Hopefully he gets better after the treatment, please pray for him. :)


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

VOTES Help my rescue pup win best halloween costume 👻

0 Upvotes

Our rescue pup is a very shy one so we chose her costume being a claw machine so she could be in a semi-enclosed space surrounded by her blankets, plushies and her sister. We’re up against a dog who is backed by an account with 2 million followers. I don’t know that many people and only have friends, co-workers and family. Can you help vote for Ms. Foxy for her to win? The voting is on facebook and all you need to do is just click on the link and like/heart their photo to vote. Thank you! 🦊❤️

https://www.facebook.com/share/19avmHGaZh/?mibextid=wwXIfr


r/Assistance • • 2d ago

REQUEST Requesting assistance with a $239 dental filling due to ongoing tooth pain

9 Upvotes

Hey guys, I’m posting here because I’m in a bit of a tough spot financially and was hoping someone might be able to help me out. I’ve been having pain in one of my back teeth over the past few days, and it’s been making it hard to get throug my daily activities and affecting mood. I went to the dentistt to get it checked, and they told me I need a filling, which will cost $239 NZD ($136 USD).

Unfortunately, I’m struggling to afford it right now. I’m currently unemployed due to a medical condition that affects my ability to work, and the allowance I receive goes towards my medication, bills, and weekly rehab sessions. After covering those essentials, there’s not much left over.

To make things harder, I was charged $52 for an X-ray during my dental appointment, and I wasn’t told about the cost beforehand. Honestly, had I known it would cost extra, I wouldn’t have gone ahead with it, especially since I was already certain that this was the tooth causin my pain. The unexpected charge has left me even tighter financially, and I’m now struggling to cover the fillinh itself.

For now, I’ve been taking pain relief to get through the day, but I can’t keep relying on it long term, and I really need to get my tooth sorted. Also using mouthwash and Sensodyne toothpaste 😅.

I was hoping to ask if anyone might be able to help me with donations towards the $239 NZD ($136USD) cost of the filling. Even a small contribution would help me get closer to affording the treatment, and I’d be genuinely grateful for any support.

I only have PayPal and Wise available for receiving donations, and I’m happy to share my details privately with anyone who’s able to help. I understand everyone has their own expenses and struggles, so there’s absolutely no pressure. Thanks so much for taking the time to read my post. I really appreciate it.

Edit: Country required to be mention sorry. Im in New Zealand but born in Australia. The amount is $239 NZD so thats $136USD).


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST $650 needed to keep car

0 Upvotes

Hey everyone, about 4 months ago me and my partner became homeless and started living in our car. I had work throughout but my partner hadn't had work until recently and i had a stint where i could not work due to a concussion. That with me being scammed through an app my work recommended, (which i can name) we had several checks that we couldn't cash immediately. We are trying to get on our feet but the waitlist where i live to even get out of homelessness takes at LEAST year. Either way we are on track to getting out of homelessness but we cant survive on the streets.

Im not looking for what we owe on the car, im just looking for enough to call the repossession off. I plan to make another payment with my paycheck thats put in correctly now. I have 50 from a friend (off reddit. Irl) and i have about 70 left from my check. 650 is what i need total to keep our car. I also have screenshots of the email we got as proo that i can send in dms with personal information off. Thank you for allowing me to make this request. Have a great day.


r/Assistance • • 2d ago

REQUEST Need $85 to cover my treatment costs

9 Upvotes

I had some unexpected vet expenses this month after my cat got out and into something nasty in a neighbors yard. She came home and her hair started falling out immediately, she also developed a few lesions that had me terrified. One $200 vet trip later and we're none the wiser about what she got into, but she's been bathed and seems fine aside from the hair loss and little scabbies.

After that expense I am short for my methadone treatment fees by the requested amount. I have been clean from street opiates for many years and I get bi-weekly take home doses. If I am unable to pay even one time, I will lose my take home status and get placed into "financial detox" as they call it.

I am pretty desperate to avoid that. I am also too ashamed to ask my family for help. They are not very understanding and will shit on me for putting my cat before myself in this scenario.

I can provide pictures of my Tsarina Katarina looking a bit better if that would help. The hair loss is still super noticeable, but other than that she is fine thank goodness.